I have always know that I am a blunt person.
Sometimes I begin to wonder if this is a good or bad thing. I was recently in a conversation in which a guy was asking if something he had done was rude. We asked for some context and what he said was basicly this: He asked a girl what impressed her, then backed up and explained that guys found her attractive. He let that sink in and when she was feeling flattered he clairified that he had not said that he found her attractive.(when in reality he did find her attractive) He went on to explain that guys seemed to do stupid things in order to impress her and he didn't think she was impressed.
Ok, so I wanted to know why he couldn't just say I see that guys do stupid things in an attempt to impress you, are you really impressed? Why not be strait forward. He said you can't just do that. I know that girls play games and that some guys do to, but untill this conversation, I had not realized how prevlent these manipulations were in play. Am I one of few out there that is so blunt as to be apalled by such useless, manipulative and childish tactics. Am I too forward? Is this ranting too honest or offensive with it's honesty? I think we should tell it like it is with love and with out trying to hurt some one, but push come to shove i'm not going to be the one who backs down on principles in an attempt to spare feelings. If your wrong i'll tell you your wrong, in as loving and gentle a way as I can, without sacrificing honesty. I hold my friends to their own standards. This means that I have no problem hanging them by a rope that they strung for someone else. (This does not mean one I strung, I'm not that arrogant.)I think that this helps a person to have integrity. You are allowed to change your opinion. I don't mean to say otherwise, but if you hold a belief, then you should seek to understand all that it effects. Somethimes this takes someone outside ourselves to show us how holding one opinion effects a belief on something that seems unrelated. I hope that I make some sence.
Sometimes I begin to wonder if this is a good or bad thing. I was recently in a conversation in which a guy was asking if something he had done was rude. We asked for some context and what he said was basicly this: He asked a girl what impressed her, then backed up and explained that guys found her attractive. He let that sink in and when she was feeling flattered he clairified that he had not said that he found her attractive.(when in reality he did find her attractive) He went on to explain that guys seemed to do stupid things in order to impress her and he didn't think she was impressed.
Ok, so I wanted to know why he couldn't just say I see that guys do stupid things in an attempt to impress you, are you really impressed? Why not be strait forward. He said you can't just do that. I know that girls play games and that some guys do to, but untill this conversation, I had not realized how prevlent these manipulations were in play. Am I one of few out there that is so blunt as to be apalled by such useless, manipulative and childish tactics. Am I too forward? Is this ranting too honest or offensive with it's honesty? I think we should tell it like it is with love and with out trying to hurt some one, but push come to shove i'm not going to be the one who backs down on principles in an attempt to spare feelings. If your wrong i'll tell you your wrong, in as loving and gentle a way as I can, without sacrificing honesty. I hold my friends to their own standards. This means that I have no problem hanging them by a rope that they strung for someone else. (This does not mean one I strung, I'm not that arrogant.)I think that this helps a person to have integrity. You are allowed to change your opinion. I don't mean to say otherwise, but if you hold a belief, then you should seek to understand all that it effects. Somethimes this takes someone outside ourselves to show us how holding one opinion effects a belief on something that seems unrelated. I hope that I make some sence.
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